WRESTLER'S WIFE ARRESTED for Domestic Violence

The blogosphere is alive with chatter about professional wrestler Ric Flair, who currently works for TNA Wrestling, and his wife having ". . . an unfortunate disagreement late [Sunday] night, which led to his wife being arrested and charged with assault," according to Flair's agent.

Jacqueline Beams is the fourth wife of Flair, the two of them having been married just three months ago.  Looks like the honeymoon's over.

This seems pretty straight foward, but I suspect more will come out later.  In November 2005, Flair was arrested following an apparent case of road rage where he allegedly grabbed a motorist by the neck.  Yikes.

And then in September of 2008, Flair was involved in an incident with his daughter (daughter?) where she was arrested for police interference.  Evidently Flair got "roughed up" and received cuts on his face and a black eye!  That must be one tough daughter.

I'm posting about this because of the problem that law enforcement has in determining who to arrrest in domestic abuse cases.  I'm reading that many agencies are now training their people to actually do investigation at the scene of the domestic violence, to literally determine who threw the first punch. 

Whoever started the fight is then the person arrested, the theory being that the person receiving that first punch (even tho perhaps less injured) was only defending themselves. 

And, of course, you guys know that I'm posting this to remind you to be very careful not to let your female partner goad you into anything physical. 

Very few police agencies are training their people to discover who threw that first punch.  If a woman picks up the phone and cries "domestic violence", you're probably going to be the one going out the door -- with an arrest for domestic violence on your record and possibly losing your job.

I'm curious to know what you think about the police doing deeper investigation at the scene.  Would that have helped you or someone you know?

Comments

[Connor Delco]

Being a witness and victim to both genders of domestic violence, i have found that abusive women are usually overlooked.They are for the most part,underestimated as far as their manipulation skills are concerned.

[Jason Michelli]

Having been arrested for domestic violence about three years ago, which still has yet to go to trial, I'm not sure if training officers to do an on-scene investigation will actually do any good in most of the cases. Some, yes...most, probably not. Borderlines are so capable of manipulating facts and being so believable because...they actually believe their version of the incident as seen through their emotional filter. My wife has recently physically attacked me, yet I'm supposedly the abusive one when I restrain her to keep her from hurting me? I think the real need is to have mediators/counselors that work with the courts who are more versed and trained specifically to understand such factors as BPD and other disorders where the "facts" are quite often highly distorted from reality.

[Lynn Melville]

I completely agree with you, Jason. We have drug and alcohol courts. And we have divorce courts.

Why can't we have Borderline courts? I believe we don't have them because the disorder isn't being addressed, either in the court system or even in the domestic violence system.

If nothing else, specialists in the Borderline disorder should be on staff at every court, to advise all the legal personnel what's really going on behind the scenes in many domestic violence and divorce cases.

Lynn Melville
Author, Boomerang Love

[Lynn Melville]

I believe you're right, Connor. It's so easy for the woman to play the domestic violence card. However, current CDC statistics say that 30 percent of domestic violence inidents are male-related. So attitudes are changing a bit in that area.

One small footnote, though. I recently read a report from one state that dug into the 30 percent male domestic violence rate. They discovered that men who had killed themselves (just before being arrested, while holding their partner hostage, etc.) were counted in the domestic violence incident rate.

So that kind of throws the 30 percent female to male domestic violence rate off a bit.