Welcome to what I believe is the only blog on the Internet devoted to violence and abuse -- in all its many forms -- against men
When I wrote my book, Breaking Free from Boomerang Love -- Getting Unhooked from Abusive Borderline Relationships, I was surprised to see the domestic violence victims reaching for my book like a lifeline. I had 'only' experienced emotional abuse, not physical, so I hadn't tied up the relationship of Borderline Personality Disorder with domestic violence.
But I was soon educated, as the emails from domestic violence victims reading my book came flooding in. And within that group was a significant number of men . . . men who had never spoken up before, as no one had validated their experiences.
Over the past year or so, I've become a Relationship Coach, helping people crawl out of these painful relationships. Again, at least half of the people I've coached have been men -- good men, White Knight men, men who were altering their personal Code of Honor in choosing to leave their partners in order to save their sanity . . . and sometimes their very lives.
I've had a domestic violence blog up and running for some time now -- www.stoptheabuse.blogs.com. It's now time to separate out the issues specifically relating to men in these painful relationships -- ones that they rarely tell anyone about, out of shame.
Welcome to a safe spot to share your experiences and comments.
What do you think about creating a blog just for male abuse and violence? Have you had experiences to share with us? Let's make this a comfortable place to put up our feet, pop a cool one . . . and vent, grieve or support.
Lynn,
Glad to see you grab the frontlines on this subject. This subject needs to get some publicity and resources allocated to it. Bless you.
Posted by: Tom in CT | April 20, 2007 at 05:30 AM
this happened to me, borderline wife had me almost killed by proxy. then had a restraining order put on me claiming i was the violent one.
most bpd's are women, and i understand most abuse is on men, in spite of the mainstream media's constant propaganda to the contrary.
Posted by: anonymous | October 20, 2007 at 10:07 PM
Hello, Anonymous --
Yes, I've heard of many men who've been falsely accused of violence, with restraining orders put on them -- thus keeping them from seeing their children.
I hope you've gotten this situation straightened out now.
Posted by: Lynn Melville | October 23, 2007 at 11:44 PM