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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN: Almost 50%

Check out the below link featuring Harry Crouch, executive director of the San Diego Mens Center in California.  Harry brings up the unknown fact that in the 2007 national crime statistics report of 1.4 million women as domestic violence victims, 250,000 of those cases were rapes. 

So that drops the 1.4 number of actual domestic violence victims closer to 1 million.

The stated number of domestic violence crimes against men is 835,000 -- with no rapes counted in that number (Harry specifically mentions jail rapes).

Current intimate partner domestic violence statistics are stating that domestic violence against men in our country is 30 percent of the cases against women   Harry's facts change that to more like 40 to 45 percent -- almost 50 percent.

And yet very little funding is available for domestic violence against men.  Something needs to change.

Check out this link:  http://antimisandry.com/chit-chat-main/14061-boys-boy-crisis.html.  Scroll down the page to the PLAY box on the left. 

Are you a male who has experienced domestic violence by an intimate partner?  Share your story here in the comment section below, so other men can learn about the hidden face of intimate partner violence against men. It's time to put shame aside and call a spade a spade.

A MOTHER BEGS FOR HELP for Son Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence

A mother in Texas submitted an email today to the Hereticalsex blog on the Internet, begging for help for her son.  She lays out a despairing story of a four-year battle by her son to restore his name and to have contact with her grandson.

What do you think of her story?  Has this happened to you?

PSYCHIATRISTS SAY Darth Vader is Borderline

Check out sister domestic violence blog Stop the Abuse for a tongue-in-cheek analysis of Anakin Skywalker as Borderline by the French psychiatrists at the annual American Psychiatric Association's meeting in San Diego this month.

Nice exercise in putting circles around Borderline behaviors in a manner laypeople can understand.

EVEN PHYSICIST STEPHEN HAWKING Won't Admit Domestic Abuse

ABC News reported that Cambridge physicist Stephen Hawking has rejected claims that he's been the victim of assault at the hands of his wife.

Detectives are looking into claims that Elaine Hawking has assaulted her husband, who has suffered from motor neurone disease for more than 40 years.  At least 10 nurses or caregivers have given statements to police.

One nurse was quoted in The Times as saying that Mrs. Hawking, "bathed her husband in water that was too hot, allowed him to wet himself and called him a 'cripple'."

However, Professor Hawking said, "My wife and I love each other very much and it is only because of her that I am alive today."

Great.  Even one of the most accomplished, world-renowned, beloved, just-returned-from-flying-in-outer-space men in our country won't speak up and fight back against the unkind, mean behavior they experience at the hands of their intimate partner. 

Who's going to set the standard, be the role model for the millions of abused men in our country? 

Who's going to bring male domestic violence out of the closet?

(NOTE TO MEN CURRENTLY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS:  What if you develop one of those awful diseases -- Lou Gehrig's, perhaps.  How will your partner treat you when you're ill . . . if she's mean to you when you're well?)

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WHY SOCIETY THINKS Domestic Violence Toward Men Doesn't Exist

I was interviewed on April 25, 2007, by Chuck Baker of AM radio station KKKK in Colorado Springs.  We were discussing the recent murder of Rebecca Griego by an ex-boyfriend, who had long distance stalked her all the way to the University of Washington in Seattle. 

I was explaining the Borderline Personality Disorder person's intense fear of the loss of their loved one, leading to frantic efforts to avoid real -- or imagined -- abandonment.

Chuck is very interested in domestic violence -- especially DV against men.  I said that my daughter's college textbooks stated that only 2 percent of men were abused, while my current research is showing that it's really as high as 30 to 40 percent.

This brought Chuck to the point of anger that DV against men is not being addressed in this country.  What came out of my mouth at that point was a surprise to me, but yet is the absolute truth.

Why don't we know about DV against men -- and why aren't we helping them?  Because we haven't known it exists -- since men don't talk about it !!

I surprised myself with the simplicity of this truth.  Everything I've read says that men don't talk about the abuse they're receiving, because of their shame.  I personally know one man who confessed to me that his wife of 20 years will suddenly come at him with knives.  He grabs pillows off the couch to defend and protect himself.

How about it, guys?  Get an anonymous yahoo email address and begin posting here, so the world will know what's really happening out there.

STOP THE ABUSE: Sister Domestic Violence Blog

This blog is new and will evolve into a much-needed interactive site on a specific subject that needs a light shined on it -- domestic violence against men.

However, the blog I created in 2005 -- www.stoptheabuse.blogs.com -- has loads of helpful information regarding the overall subject of domestic violence.

If you're in a hurtful relationship, looking for answers, don't forget to visit this site's Sister Domestic Violence Blog.  Then come back and share your thoughts in a comment on this site.  Your observations might help someone else . . . .

WELCOME

Welcome to what I believe is the only blog on the Internet devoted to violence and abuse -- in all its many forms -- against men

When I wrote my book, Breaking Free from Boomerang Love -- Getting Unhooked from Abusive Borderline Relationships, I was surprised to see the domestic violence victims reaching for my book like a lifeline.  I had 'only' experienced emotional abuse, not physical, so I hadn't tied up the relationship of Borderline Personality Disorder with domestic violence. 

But I was soon educated, as the emails from domestic violence victims reading my book came flooding in.  And within that group was a significant number of men . . . men who had never spoken up before, as no one had validated their experiences.

Over the past year or so, I've become a Relationship Coach, helping people crawl out of these painful relationships.  Again, at least half of the people I've coached have been men -- good men, White Knight men, men who were altering their personal Code of Honor in choosing to leave their partners in order to save their sanity . . . and sometimes their very lives.

I've had a domestic violence blog up and running for some time now -- www.stoptheabuse.blogs.com.  It's now time to separate out the issues specifically relating to men in these painful relationships -- ones that they rarely tell anyone about, out of shame.

Welcome to a safe spot to share your experiences and comments.   

What do you think about creating a blog just for male abuse and violence?  Have you had experiences to share with us?  Let's make this a comfortable place to put up our feet, pop a cool one . . . and vent, grieve or support.