A mother in Texas submitted an email today to the Hereticalsex blog on the Internet, begging for help for her son. She lays out a despairing story of a four-year battle by her son to restore his name and to have contact with her grandson.
What do you think of her story? Has this happened to you?
Christopher, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Women making false accusations of domestic violence by men happens every day. When I'm coaching male partners of women with Borderline Personality Disorder, I warn them to be very careful about getting into situations where their female partner could accuse them of abuse. Unless there are witnesses, it's extremely hard for men to prove they didn't abuse the women. You ask for help, saying you can't afford legal fees. Is there a Legal Aid Society where you live? Or is there any agency that provides free legal aid to the needy? Or can you seek the advice of an attorney about your going to trial to remove the domestic violence guilty verdict, representing yourself without an attorney? Keep posting here. Those of us on this site care.
Posted by: Lynn Melville | December 28, 2009 at 11:56 PM
I was falsely accused by my ex-girlfriend of hitting her and she only did this to get child support and custody of my son. I have had sole custody since 2001 and this happened in 2002 but my son still lives solely with me. My first lawyer was a perv and only wanted a date with my mom. The second took my money thinking that I actually had my ex's cooperation. I did not have the funds to take it totrial and was told it would be alot of money to take it to trial. I have kpt my story the same from day one but no one seems to care for anything except money. I have tried everything I know and am wits end on what to do. All I want is fair justice and to be able to be in the career I have always wanted. I just want to be able to provide for my children and not feel locked up with this against me. If there is anyone who can help or any way to get this resolved please let me know. Thanks!
Posted by: Christopher | December 12, 2009 at 04:02 PM
Oh, Relda. You must be feeling so angry and so sad, at the same time. And perhaps so powerless to help your son.
Borderlines do have enormous rage inside, rage that they should be directing at the people who hurt them in their childhood.
What happens is that in adulthood, they dump that rage on the people around them, especially their intimate partners.
You might call Harry Crouch, director of the California Mens' Center in San Diego (www.camenscenters.org), to see if he can offer any advice or guidance to help your son.
Harry works tirelessly on behalf of men who have been abused by their partners.
Keep us posted on what happens with your son.
Lynn Melville
Posted by: Lynn Melville | March 18, 2009 at 06:16 PM
I am going through the same thing now with my son in Florida. His girlfriend got a domestic violence charge against him, called for him to come to her house, her mother called 911, son was arrested but also got a burglary charge because the family said he tried to break in the house. Now he has no money, a public defender who does nothing and has his life completely ruined. This happens in Florida every day to innocent men.
Posted by: Relda Copning | March 16, 2009 at 10:02 AM