WELCOME

Welcome to what I believe is the only blog on the Internet devoted to violence and abuse -- in all its many forms -- against men

When I wrote my book, Breaking Free from Boomerang Love -- Getting Unhooked from Abusive Borderline Relationships, I was surprised to see the domestic violence victims reaching for my book like a lifeline.  I had 'only' experienced emotional abuse, not physical, so I hadn't tied up the relationship of Borderline Personality Disorder with domestic violence. 

But I was soon educated, as the emails from domestic violence victims reading my book came flooding in.  And within that group was a significant number of men . . . men who had never spoken up before, as no one had validated their experiences.

Over the past year or so, I've become a Relationship Coach, helping people crawl out of these painful relationships.  Again, at least half of the people I've coached have been men -- good men, White Knight men, men who were altering their personal Code of Honor in choosing to leave their partners in order to save their sanity . . . and sometimes their very lives.

I've had a domestic violence blog up and running for some time now -- www.stoptheabuse.blogs.com.  It's now time to separate out the issues specifically relating to men in these painful relationships -- ones that they rarely tell anyone about, out of shame.

Welcome to a safe spot to share your experiences and comments.   

What do you think about creating a blog just for male abuse and violence?  Have you had experiences to share with us?  Let's make this a comfortable place to put up our feet, pop a cool one . . . and vent, grieve or support.

Comments

[Lynn Melville]

Hello, Anonymous --

Yes, I've heard of many men who've been falsely accused of violence, with restraining orders put on them -- thus keeping them from seeing their children.

I hope you've gotten this situation straightened out now.

[anonymous]

this happened to me, borderline wife had me almost killed by proxy. then had a restraining order put on me claiming i was the violent one.
most bpd's are women, and i understand most abuse is on men, in spite of the mainstream media's constant propaganda to the contrary.

[Tom in CT]

Lynn,

Glad to see you grab the frontlines on this subject. This subject needs to get some publicity and resources allocated to it. Bless you.